For me, my rule of thumb is to eliminate anyone who doesn’t appreciate or respect me the way that I would respect them. That doesn’t mean that I remove all acquaintances (as some of them may still be suppressive), but it does mean that I keep them at bay as much as is needed for me to move on and focus on what’s important in my life. Remember, there are 7 billion people in this world. In this lifetime you will meet about 100,000 (.00001%) face to face. With those chances, it’s hard to deny that every person we meet is special in some way or another, however, you don’t need to waste your time on those who bring you down instead of lift you up. I hope every interaction has a positive influence on your life!
Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it – Buddha
With that being said, be grateful for the fact that you are able to see through those who have a negative influence on your life and that you can now focus on what’s positive.
Ways to remove the negatives from your life
- Identify the problems: what’s holding you back the most right now? Approach the issue head on and fix it
- Stop giving your time and energy to suppressive people: emphasis on choose
- Have compassion: be aware that not everyone is at your current stage of awareness, be mindful of this and patient if necessary
- Forgive: as directly above, we all need time figuring things out so believe in giving second chances and that people can change for the better
- Be respectful: if you’re not sure, take people at face value and respect their opinions even if they are far removed from your own
- Go offline: just like we have talked about regarding unplugging, social networking like Facebook can be one of the worst negative influences in your life. Cut it down or remove it completely until you are clear. Talk with someone who is good for you or…
- Move: start exercising, make it a part of your daily routine. You may even need to physically move where you live.
- Take action: stress from worry can emotionally paralyze you. Sometimes you just have to start doing things and taking actions!
It isn’t easy to let things go, especially if you feel you have invested a lot of emotional effort into it. As is the nature of a bad romantic relationship, you sometimes just have to wake up and realise that it just isn’t working and ending it needs to happen. Always remember, it honestly is OK to let go of things and people. I have absolutely no issue in completely removing people from my life, and while that might seem like a very harsh thing to do, it’s in the best interest of how my life will play out. If you’re a genuinely caring person then you also need to be freed of unhealthy/unproductive/destructive relationships, but you might be “too nice” to have the courage to do so and think it may have negative consequences. I used to think this way a lot, as I’ve grown and become stronger within myself I can tell you it isn’t worth it!
If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. – Henry Ford (1863-1947)
Positivity breeds positivity, it’s the karmic balance of life. If you put out strong positive energy then the domino effect will come into play in the right direction. Hopefully what you’ve read will help you to shift the balance into your favour, and I look forward to hearing about what did and didn’t work for you.